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Love Your Story Therapy|405 Primrose Road, Suite 208, Burlingame, CA 94010|(650) 206-9505

Our Couples Counseling Services

When It Feels Like You Are Sharing A House But Not A Life

Many couples experience a drift, where passion fades into emotional distance, often unnoticed until a crisis occurs. We understand the complexities of relationships and are here to help you navigate these challenges. Our compassionate Christian counseling is designed to help you and your partner find common ground and connect on a deeper level.

How Can Couples Counseling Help Us?

Uncovering Relationship Patterns

We work together to help you understand what is happening in your relationship and identify the patterns that keep you stuck and disconnected. Recognizing these patterns can help you see yourself and your partner in a new light, allowing you to reframe your interactions and create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

Developing Effective Communication

Effective communication is the foundation of a strong relationship. The ability to express your needs and feelings to your partner doesn’t always come naturally. We can help you learn to communicate in a way that allows both of you to feel heard, understood, and validated.

Resolving Conflicts

Every relationship faces challenges, and the impact of those challenges on your connection is unique to each couple. At Love Your Story Therapy, we take the time to listen to both sides of the story and utilize effective systems such as the Gottman Method and prepare to help you address the issues you are facing and reach a resolution that works for both of you.

Exploring Underlying Issues

Often, the conflicts that bring you to couples therapy are symptoms of deeper issues rooted in past experiences, unmet needs, or behavior patterns developed over time. By uncovering and understanding these underlying factors, we can work together to resolve immediate conflicts and create lasting change and healing within your relationship.

Working as a Team

Many couples come to us expressing that they don’t feel like they’re working together as a team and feel they are tackling challenges alone. Our focus in therapy is to help you bridge this gap so you can face life’s challenges as a stronger, more unified team. If necessary, we may suggest individual therapy with another therapist in our group to ensure that each of your specific needs is addressed, your progress is monitored, and you’re making strides toward your relationship goals.

 How Couples Therapy Works

Couples therapy includes one individual session with each person to ensure we understand your unique perspective. All other sessions are conducted together.

We Understand Your Story

We listen to the story that has created and shaped the way you live today.

We Get to the Root Cause

We address the immediate pain and work towards changing deep-rooted patterns.

We Help You Move Toward Change

We work with your unique needs and story to heal pain and create lasting change.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do we attend therapy together?

Yes. We want to support you in reconnecting as we work together to understand how you got here, your and your partner’s current needs, and how we can develop a personalized plan to strengthen your bond.

Do you ever see us individually?

Often, we will meet with each of you alone at the beginning of our sessions to allow you to share things with your counselor that you might have been reluctant to discuss in your partner’s presence. This also gives your therapist a chance to help you work on your weaknesses and build on your strengths in a way that translates into the relationship as a whole.

Does therapy help?

Couples counseling provides a safe space where you can talk openly, better understand each other, and learn how to improve your connection with the gentle guidance of a third party. While there is no guarantee of a specific outcome with couples counseling, it has been shown to contribute to a decreasing divorce rate in the United States in recent years. With your commitment to the process, counseling can absolutely help save and strengthen your marriage.

What if my partner won’t come?

Couples therapy requires participation, willingness, and commitment from both partners to achieve optimal results. However, taking that first step toward change is an important one, even if you’re by yourself. Many people find that once they get started with therapy, the changes they are able to make on their own lead to significant improvement in the relationship. Seeing that impact can often inspire reluctant partners to join as well.
 
If you’re still struggling to have your partner come to therapy, we suggest booking an individual session to start meeting your needs now.

If You’re Ready To:

  • Build and nurture a deeper connection
  • Communicate your needs and desires openly and honestly
  • Enjoy spending time and sharing experiences together
  • Feel like you are parenting as a team
  • Understand your partner on a deeper level
  • Bring the romance and passion back into your life

You are in the right place! Without support, the distance in your relationship may continue to grow, leading to unresolved issues and emotional pain. Don’t let your love story fade—take the first step toward healing today.

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